The issue of violence against women is surrounded with a multitude of commonly held beliefs that sometimes obstruct the process of ending that violence. Therefore, it is important that we expose these stereotypes in order to reveal the truth behind the issue of violence against women.

Myth:

Violence against women is a women's issue.

Truth:

Violence against women is an issue affecting a large number of people of all races, ages, and economic backgrounds. It permeates all spheres of life: social, economic, and political. For example, the total cost of domestic violence is estimated at around £23 billion falling into the following areas: criminal justice system and police, NHS and other health services, social services, housing, and civil and legal aid.

Myth:

Domestic violence is not a pressing issue.

Truth:

Domestic violence is an enormously important issue. In fact, in the UK, a women is raped, stabbed, or beaten every 6 seconds (Preston Women's Refuge, 2003).

Myth:

A woman is more likely to suffer violence from someone she doesn't know.

Truth:

This couldn't be further from the truth. 54% of rapists were current of former partners of the victim and only 17% were strangers (BCS2006/2006).

Myth:

Violent men just can't control their anger.

Truth:

Ironically, abusers use violence as a means by which they can exert control. If abusers have enough control to abuse a particular way, in a particular setting, to a particular person, they have enough control to prevent the violence.

Myth:

Alcohol and drugs are often at the root of domestic violence.

Truth:

Drugs and alcohol cannot be used to justify violence. Almost even numbers of sober and drunken people are violent. Domestic violence cannot be blamed on alcohol. Important things to remember are: the violence was targeted, avoiding action can be taken by choosing not to use drugs and alcohol, and not all men using substances are violent and many violent men don't drink.

Myth:

Women deserve it. If it were that bad, they would just leave.

Truth:

It is extremely difficult for a woman to leave an abusive relationship. Men who abuse are experts in exerting their control in strategic and manipulative ways. Through this control, the woman begins to feel isolated and worn down, creating total fear and dependence and a lack of self-esteem and confidence in themselves and anyone else around them. Obviously, feelings like these combined with the perceived threat of increased violence if trying to leave, would make doing so quite difficult.